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How Long Is Too Long?

DD Daddy October 4, 2016 Posts 4 Comments on How Long Is Too Long?

I booked our highly anticipated Japan trip 11 months ago and we’re a little over a month until we take this ‘dream come true’ trip. First Class Japan Airlines For Dirt Cheap and 6 nights in 5 star hotels for $0 out of pocket, if you want to read the details of the trip booking.

Japan has been our #1 desired vacation destination since 2013 and our trip was all but booked until we discovered we were to become parents. Many of you may recall my most popular post There Goes Japan where I give descriptive details on how our Japan trip came to a screeching halt. Exhilarated, jubilant, ecstatic, blissful, all adjectives I’m currently feeling for my upcoming trip to Tokyo and Kyoto, given the expectancy since 2013. The one adjective not listed? Worried.


How I’m Feeling!

Lately, at least once a week I wake up and the first thought that runs through my head is how will the girls fare without Mommy and Daddy for 7 nights. I know they’ll be with both sets of grandparents and nanny during that week but I know my girls. I know they’ll miss us and I know how they get when one parent is gone for a few days, let alone both of us for 7 nights….it’s nerve-wracking. I simply can’t get over the slightly guilty feeling of leaving them for 7 nights, and that’s a short trip for Japan so I’m cutting corners to make this dream trip a reality.

We’ve never left them for more than 5 nights and that was last year on our anniversary trip to Paris and Amsterdam. Everything went smooth but they were also only 2 years old and now at 3, they’re a bit more self-aware and emotionally intelligent.

What are your thoughts? Am I overreacting? Have you left your child or children for that many nights or more? How long is too long? Curious to hear your comments and suggestions.





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  1. FreeTravelGuys October 4, 2016 at 11:10 pm

    My wife wants to cancel Australia near year (10 days) and my son will be 2.5 years then. Just did HKG (10 days) and he was acting up a bit while we were away but I honestly think other than the guilt of leaving him behind, at that age he won’t remember that we left for 10 days. Each kid is different so I think in the end only you will know what’s best.

  2. Mommy Points October 5, 2016 at 9:36 am

    I dream of just 7 hours “off” right now, so 7 days sounds like a blissful eternity. Seriously though, personally we capped trips away around 4 days until our oldest daughter was 5 when we did just over a week and also involved both sets of grandparents. She was fine by that point. But, there is no magic answer. They may get sad. They may act out. You will get sad. But, everyone should be fine in the end. My best advice is just really enjoy the time together and come back recharged to be there for them.

    • DD Daddy October 5, 2016 at 10:02 am

      Much needed break that’s for sure. Like you said, everyone should be fine at the end. Absence makes the heart grow fonder (if that’s even possible).

  3. Mommy Points October 5, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    Ha ha – it’s possible. 😉 I don’t know if more kids are in y’alls future or not, but I will add for those who might be in a gap between kids that I absolutely recommend taking advantage of some adult getaways. I’m grateful for every trip we were able to take when daughter #1 was old enough to leave, but before daughter #2 again kept us closer to home.

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